tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7486446.post113918599602630764..comments2023-09-20T03:34:47.984-04:00Comments on My part of the world.......: One step forward, two steps back.....Acolytehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03673179447438729227noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7486446.post-1139357484725761272006-02-07T19:11:00.000-05:002006-02-07T19:11:00.000-05:00@Aco's question to whis - Yes sir I can! Have you ...@Aco's question to whis - Yes sir I can! Have you seen Mutumia's booty? Now imagine two, just like twins!Whispering Innhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01672947481572051542noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7486446.post-1139323436545537562006-02-07T09:43:00.000-05:002006-02-07T09:43:00.000-05:00@ sanaaMuch as you are harsh and we dont always ag...@ sanaa<BR/>Much as you are harsh and we dont always agree on issues but I feel you on this 220%!Any man who says he fully understands women is lying to himself.Women are an enigma.But anyway many women have the upper hand esp as mistresses that is the ones who know what they want, no rings no strings attached sex and cash to boot.Plus you can get that kid that you wanted without the hassles of trying to sustain a marriage alongside.Also for many married men they need sex coz it seems that those legs close in the case of many women as soon as they get married.<BR/>As for Kenya let's just say that money opens lots of doors and legs.Poor dudes get a lot less love in nai, there are some nice chics out there but usually it's no romance without finance.It's the same here in the states with Kenyan chics and the stakes are much higher coz these chics also make money so you have to work a whole lot harder to impress.<BR/>I guess in this case both parties have something to gain and having your cake and eating it is not as fun as it looks for men.....<BR/>@ Movie buff<BR/>There are always some idiots who think it is their calling to convert you into those seeking connubial bliss.You can be happy and single is what I always say, the good thing with being out of Kenya is that there is a whole lot less pressure.As for those chics who think he will leave the man I want to slap some sense into them.Viva singlehood!!!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7486446.post-1139321976228196892006-02-07T09:19:00.000-05:002006-02-07T09:19:00.000-05:00Being No. 2 is not an option that I am considering...Being No. 2 is not an option that I am considering!For those who are willing.... all I can say is different strokes for different folks.<BR/><BR/>I agree with Prousette that marriage is a major sham but there is always the exception to the rule.<BR/><BR/>Abt being alone.....I have tried to make it clear that I would rather be happy alone than miserable with a man. Apparently, many people think that is a phase I am going thru. That it is impossible to be so.<BR/><BR/>Dont ask me.. I dont have time to justify anything.<BR/><BR/>For those who are willing to believe that "someday" he is going to leave his wife for you..... ummm... wake up and smell the mocha... ladies.. come on now! The oldest line in the planet!CiikuMrsBabeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04185792582756204078noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7486446.post-1139301150548219702006-02-07T03:32:00.000-05:002006-02-07T03:32:00.000-05:00I haven't read the article but i've read your opin...I haven't read the article but i've read your opinion on it.<BR/><BR/>Most jamaas think they know chics inside out while they don't. Take for instance dating married or men who are already involved. <BR/><BR/>Sometimes its not so much as the need to be in a relationship that you take whatever just so as to be considered as being involved. Sometimes you just want to fuck and leave someone with no possibilities of any strings attached. <BR/><BR/>Whats more lots of married men seem very frustrated i guess someone needs to relieve them without having to uproot them from their prior commitment.<BR/><BR/>The main reason is really a lack of proper morals.<BR/><BR/>Coz i mean if its just wanting to be in a relationship wanaume ni wengi why take one who is already bogged down.<BR/><BR/>Its all about the sex (vulnerability on the mens part, ability to enjoy the benefits of being involved without being accountable or held down)..which most of the time does not discriminate ones status.<BR/><BR/>Married men who will stoop so low as to have a mistress are also evidently desparate. The same men will go out of their way to make you want to stay, e.g spoiling you with money gifts and what not. A likely victim for any gold diggers.<BR/><BR/>I heard in Kenya as a jamaa if your not willing to part with your cash (who cares for your time) then you will be wanking for a looong time.<BR/><BR/>Its not always about seeming to appear in a relationship..its much deeper than that. Whats more the men are the vulnerable ones here and the women are just ridding the waves..<BR/><BR/>Whose fooling who?Shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17992646497296009626noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7486446.post-1139281074243936482006-02-06T21:57:00.000-05:002006-02-06T21:57:00.000-05:00@ kenyangalThings are never that simple in real li...@ kenyangal<BR/>Things are never that simple in real life.....<BR/>@ Tee J<BR/>ongea tu you will find that you are 3 women not even 2!<BR/>@ Whispering Inn<BR/>Sounds good but do you think that you can handle 2 mutumias or Ms ks?<BR/>@ Mutumia<BR/>Seems those white folk couldnt change us no matter how hard they tried if a chic is actually arguing for it....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7486446.post-1139275327140316912006-02-06T20:22:00.000-05:002006-02-06T20:22:00.000-05:00See now the convo was serious until whispering inn...See now the convo was serious until whispering inn had to go ruin it:) Ati genius LOL!<BR/><BR/>Weighing in--- the possibility to be wife #2 (legal with papers and all) is there. I mean, convincing arguments can be made. Is it probable? Hell naw! being a mistress is entirely different. That's underground and wrong. Is it possible? Probable? Let's just say, i've heard a convincing argument for mistresses.<BR/><BR/>MutumiaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7486446.post-1139270002899016922006-02-06T18:53:00.000-05:002006-02-06T18:53:00.000-05:00Two wives eh...? Two wives...hmm.Genius!Two wives eh...? Two wives...hmm.<BR/>Genius!Whispering Innhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01672947481572051542noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7486446.post-1139262278350586822006-02-06T16:44:00.000-05:002006-02-06T16:44:00.000-05:00I know they say 'never say never', but there is no...I know they say 'never say never', but there is no way i would ever share. Heck no! <BR/><BR/>If anyone asked me whether it was ok to bring a wifey 2, I would ask them if it was ok if i brought a 2nd hubby home. Please!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7486446.post-1139256569877717582006-02-06T15:09:00.000-05:002006-02-06T15:09:00.000-05:00I could be a diamond in the rough but I want the p...I could be a diamond in the rough but I want the person that marries me to see me as a diamond right now and marry me for the person I am now and not for who he wants me to be or who he sees me becoming.. similarly i wouldn't marry someone for his potential but for who he is right now, someone i see as a diamond despite his imperfctions. We'll change i'm sure but that's not a guarantee and anyway, if a man doesnt want to change you cant change him.Beehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18351695007181190630noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7486446.post-1139252269522329412006-02-06T13:57:00.000-05:002006-02-06T13:57:00.000-05:00@ kenyangalI would like you to ask yourself one th...@ kenyangal<BR/>I would like you to ask yourself one thing.."am I the finished product or a diamond in the rough?"You refuse to date one but you may be one yourself.A marriage is about two people getting together and nuturing the best things about each other.If you are both so perfect why get married then?Change can be achieved sans nagging...<BR/>@ nakeel<BR/>Seems you have a strong opinion on this but I do feel you 200%!<BR/>@ prou <BR/>I get you now<BR/>@ joe <BR/>even if you delete your comment it still gets to me.To answer you..."The bible only says that deacons should have one wife, it doesnt mention ordinary folk so by all means get a #2 and #3 if you can handle it....Acolytehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03673179447438729227noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7486446.post-1139248824351961052006-02-06T13:00:00.000-05:002006-02-06T13:00:00.000-05:00Aco you did not read the IF part of my statement. ...Aco you did not read the IF part of my statement. My ego would have long given up on getting a massage, I do mean that. Not to break the home. Two generations ago it was OK to have more than one wife it will take a little time to get off the psyche completely, I would be no. 2 gladly, any takers?Prousettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04367325529770099956noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7486446.post-1139248787281525402006-02-06T12:59:00.000-05:002006-02-06T12:59:00.000-05:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Prousettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04367325529770099956noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7486446.post-1139247513165375812006-02-06T12:38:00.000-05:002006-02-06T12:38:00.000-05:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.walkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13789042422515170213noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7486446.post-1139238353362861752006-02-06T10:05:00.000-05:002006-02-06T10:05:00.000-05:00Honestly ACO I cannot withstand to be a number 2 o...Honestly ACO I cannot withstand to be a number 2 or the sharing thing. It is better I stay bilaz and happy with that than to be married and there is no happiness.<BR/>Accepting to break a family simply because you are eying for something that man has then you deserve no second to breath again.Nakeelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13425010379844042952noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7486446.post-1139236502792729812006-02-06T09:35:00.000-05:002006-02-06T09:35:00.000-05:00I would never choose to be a second wife but I wou...I would never choose to be a second wife but I wouldn't marry a diamond in the rough either. You know the cliche that you can never change a man? You need to love and marry a man for who he is now and not for his potential (barbara d'angelis)I mean if he surprises you and changes by becoming a better man then its all good but at least you won't kill yourself nagging him to change.Beehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18351695007181190630noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7486446.post-1139234046161572772006-02-06T08:54:00.000-05:002006-02-06T08:54:00.000-05:00@ KeguroI do feel you on how things used to be way...@ Keguro<BR/>I do feel you on how things used to be way back when, but given the fact that monogamy is what many women have been agitating for quite some time in the past it doesn't make sense for me that some women will gladly overlook that and play second fiddle.Oh and I did get that the article was tongue in cheek,I just thot that it made good conversation fodder.<BR/>@ Prou<BR/>I saved your response for last as you decided to blog for me.As for the dude with two kids in the estate I think that the women knew sumthin fishy was going on but turned a blind eye.As for there being few good men left there are very many diamonds in the rough but women nowadays have no patience to find them, they would rather get a perfect man even if he belongs to someone else.As for being tired of your man bed hoping, throw him out as opposed to tolerating it via a second wife.<BR/>As for you agreeing to be a number 2 I know when push comes to shove there is no way in hell that your ego will let you!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7486446.post-1139208560328998592006-02-06T01:49:00.000-05:002006-02-06T01:49:00.000-05:00It is not that simple. The story here is about wom...It is not that simple. The story here is about women who do not mind being secong wives; as in public knowledge that Mr Aco had Mrs Aco1 and Mrs Aco 2 OK? We are not talking about mistresses and kept women.<BR/>In the past few years I have heard enough stories to make me very disenchanted with the sham that we call marriage.<BR/>Like the children who are looking through at their friends photo album and one asks<BR/>"who is this man in the photo here"<BR/>the other child answers<BR/>"it is my daddy"<BR/>then the first child goes "si he is my daddy too." Haiya?<BR/>Can you tell me how the man managed to pull a stunt like this as the two children are staying in the same estate and are even playmates?<BR/>The common story around is that there are few good men left, I do not know how true this is but from the article that came out very strongly. So single women have to adjust, be content sharing a man. She has a very valid point logistically you get tired of him he goes to the other house between the two or whatever number of you, he shall be on the straight and narrow.<BR/>I strongly suspect the article was all tongue in cheek tho!<BR/><BR/>OK, me. I would strongly consider being an official 2nd wife if all I needed was the title Mrs. and a few bambinos running all over the house. it is workable and I would not have to put up with a male permanently, trust me the woman puts a lot of work into making a marriage work and if I shared the load with someone else well ;) not that story of you leaving your wife no I do not want you to leave her but to introduce me as her new helper in the homestead.<BR/>Shoot me .Prousettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04367325529770099956noreply@blogger.com