Traits of A Real Man

In the new millenium I have noticed that alot of what made a man a man have been redefined with the changing status of gender in this day and age.Things that were taboo for men and women in the past no longer are ie it is ok for men to wear some form of make up, cry, and go for facials; women can now take leadership roles with no problem whatsoever.I think to some extent that has been good as women on one hand have more freedom then they have a long time ago and doors that were once closed to them are now open.Sisters give yourselves a big hand.But on the other hand many men and boys are lost to whom they are and what they should be doing.This is a topic that can be examined in depth but seeing as I have a final to study for and have to find a way to conjure up a meal with a next to empty fridge I will give ya'll an article and will comment at intervals.
Traits of A Real Man

Today's lesson is a throwback to the good old days when school teachers still had a whip, and you were disgraced if you showed up at home with a "D" on your report card. Today is a lesson in basics; the basics of being a man. Let's call it Manhood 101 .

With all this knowledge I have at my disposal, you may be asking, "Mr. Mafioso, why waste your valuable time with trivial lessons when there are other, more powerful lessons I need to learn about business and respect?"

Simple.

To build a great house, you need a strong foundation on which to put all the other pretty things. To build a great man, you also need a solid foundation on which to add all the other little things that set the real men apart from the stronzos .

Over the last few years of writing this little column, I've learned that too many men have no foundation, no basis on which to build the principles I teach. There are many ways to define a man, and different people have different definitions, so I'm going to skip all that crap and tell you the only thing you need to know: my way is the correct way and that's it, that's all. Capisce?

a real man reads

If you don't agree, go read the column of some guy from Arkansas who thinks owning a pickup truck is what defines a man. You'll see how far you get with his advice.
I agree with this whole heartedly!Remember when we were kids and dad knew almost everything?Also knowledge is power!You will never go anywhere if you don't know anything!

Trait #1: A real man is strong
A real man doesn't cry, doesn't moan, doesn't complain, doesn't get sick, and doesn't need to go to the doctor every time he sneezes. A real man makes decisions and lives with the consequences. A real man accepts responsibility for his actions and his words. A real man is firm. If life is a bitch, a real man will slap her and move on.

A real man is macho; a real man is tough; a real man doesn't show emotions. A real man is the backbone of his family and doesn't have time to be weak. If spiders scare you, you'll never be a real man.
Well I think that it is ok to be sick but not to moan about it!I do agree with the rest of what he has to say.It is ok to show emotions but not to cry.Unless someone really close to you dies a man has no business crying in public, if you must cry do it in private.People need a rock to lean on and it might be you....

Trait #2: A real man is focused
A real man knows the difference between what's important and what isn't. A real man doesn't waste time on stupidities that don't bring him any profit. Sure, there are things you can do as a hobby -- I like to shoot ducks -- but it must have a purpose. The purpose of my hobby is to improve my aim, and I don't have to tell you whether or not that's a useful thing in my line of work.

A real man focuses on power, money and family. He doesn't focus on sex. Sex comes as a result of having power, money and a wife (and if she doesn't satisfy you, there are plenty of other women who will, especially when you are powerful and rich).
Makes so much sense I am not even going to say anymore I may spoil it

Trait #3: A real man knows the importance of family
A real man will keep his family strong and pass on his ancestors' history and traditions. A real man knows that his children are God's gift and should be treated as such, even if he disciplines them from time to time.

A real man must also remember his other Family , his organization. In my world, both my family and my Family hold the same importance, I protect them both with all my might. If you have a Family , don't forget where your loyalties lie and who has your back when you need it.

Trait #4: A real man doesn't gossip
A real man keeps his mouth shut. He shelters information and rations his words. A real man does not reveal more than he has to, and doesn't engage in girlie talk about others. A real man doesn't discuss things he doesn't know about, or people he has never met.
A man after my own heart!I despise talking for the sake of talking.That is y I find it so hard here when I am in places and situations people act like silence is painful.Talk less and think more...

Trait #5: A real man's word is his bond
When a real man makes a promise, he keeps it. If he can't keep a promise, he doesn't give his word. A real man would rather die than break his word. A real man knows that his words are as powerful as his actions, and must be taken at face value. That is why he rations them (see above).
I agree with this 100% and practice it too!A pal who is all talk and doesn't do jack isn't worth the time of day.Your word is the most important thing you can give, if it isnt worth sh*t then you aren't worth sh*t!

Trait #6: A real man strives to be a role model
A real man respects himself and others at all times, unless, of course, he has been disrespected. A real man sets an example for his disciples and especially his children. I never bring my work home, so my children only know me as their father and not as a waste management executive. You should do the same; a real man sets the tone for his children and keeps them from discovering that he has weaknesses.
Well I agree with most of this but I think that once in a while a dad should show his kids that he has some weakness ( nuthin major ) so they know that he is human too.
Trait #7: A real man makes his own fortune
A real man doesn't settle for handouts or charity when it comes to his personal fortune. A real man isn't satisfied with papa's money. He spits on Lady Luck and decides his own destiny. A real man who inherits the goods from his forefathers takes his inheritance and turns it into 10 times what it was.
Too many people want to complain about their lot in life and do little about it
Trait #8: A real man doesn't look like a woman
A real man doesn't have piercings and long hair, and he doesn't shave his chest. Manicures, however, are acceptable. Massages from female attendants are also tolerated. A real man knows that, outside of his barber, all his personal hygiene needs must be taken care of by a woman.

A real man has at least three suits (with a mandatory pinstriped one) that cost more than a roomful of escorts. A real man wears a suit at least three times a week. Any man who doesn't know how to tie a tie should hand in his testicoli immediately. And learn how to order a bottle; I'm sick of seeing babbos ordering Colt 45 in fine establishments.
Well I am sure the end of the first para of that point hasnt pleased some of the gals so I am not going to comment on it.I dont believe in wearing a suit for the sake of wearing it so we disagree on that.As for wearing a tie I could tie a windsor know from when I was 6 and did so for a whole 12 years of school.When it comes to ordering wine there are on-line guides which I have read but I have never met a woman (other then my mum) worth taking to a 5 star restaurant...

lesson over

So what have you learned here today, class? You learned that you have a lot of homework to do before you can call yourself a real man. A real man is the essence of manhood because, by definition, he has achieved the pinnacle of his role.
You see? That was me trying to be a smart ass. Here's a bonus trait: a real man keeps it simple. If you know big words, use them rarely and appropriately, at least in front of morons who think they're smarter than you. Lesson over.


Watch your backs and keep your noses clean.
I think I will dig up some more of his stuff for post-mortem!

Weekend

I have a secret to tell you.You know how some men like to read porn in the privacy of their own homes when their families aren't present?Well I have a worse habit.....I read comic books!Yes I have a stash of superman,spiderman,hulk,batman,spawn etc comic books in the back of my closet that I pull out to read once in a while when I am really bored of school,work and life in general.
There is this small card and comic book shop in the town so I decided to pass through it and see what they had.I hardly ever buy new comics coz I find the average price of $2.50 - $3.00 to much.I have better things that I could do with that amount of money.
Another secret about me, like most men I don't shop much but that all changes when I see words like "BUY ONE GET ONE FREE""40-50% OFF" and all other similar phrases.Coz of this I was at a sale at a sports shop and bought 2 pairs of the same boot, lets just say my pals wondered how come in 4 years my shoes never wore out at all.Anyway I go into the store and I see that the owner is having some sort of clearance and he is selling loads of comics at 50 cents each.So I went ahead and got myself comics worth $20 so at least now I can indulge my bad habit a little more.....
On Sunday I was invited by some pals to a house warming bash.As is becoming the case I am more often then not cast in the role of token black guy.But I really dont mind you learn to get to it.I mean here there are still some things that are "segregated" in some ways ie churches,heng joints.Okay I wouldnt say segregated per se I think that people just dont go out of their way to mix that much coz they still work together and will still go to the same public facilities like gas stations,walmart etc.Anyway I guess that's how it is in the deep south.Otherwise the company wasnt so bad and for hard liqour fans there was a lot of good stuff but I am more of a beer man so I drank in moderation.The thing with jungu dudes is that at some points lots of gay jokes and innuendo started flowing, and these dudes seemed straight coz one had his chic there and we were talking about chics and stuff like that.Like one dude who's standing up and the other seated tells his pal that he's going to molest his head and starts making thrusting motions at his head.Then another dude makes a comment about sucking someone else's dick.At some point when these innuendos were flowing I just told them point blank that there was no way I was getting wasted and blacking out in that house that I could wake up with all my hair shaved off.Then one of them adds that I would also wake up with an aching ass too.Btw we this wasnt an all guy bash their were some chics and its not all the dudes who were giving those stories but with such people jihadhari coz alcohol removes people's inhibitions.
ps:Any physics whizzes there who can tell me why I am a victim of static electric shocks at the most inopportune moments ie when I touch certain steel doorknobs and some electronics?I have been reduced to opening some doors with my hand wrapped in my sleeve.This makes me look like I have some Obsessive Compulsive Disorder going on?

Marriage......

Seeing as Guess decided to talk about her different marriage proposals I got to ruminating on the issue and it came to me that marriage has little to offer anyone in this day and age.Companionship?Date someone, besides people have so much going on nowadays in terms of work,day to day tasks to take care of someone else's emotional well being full time.If you cant date get a dog or a cat, they're always glad to see you at the end of the day.Sex?Please people are shagging whenever and wherever, btw:seems some womens' libidos drop to zero after they taste that wedding cake, I wont even get started on how some people let themselves go once they have gotten marriage thus turning into some totally unappealing blimps and some men seem to take exception on having to live on bread alone.Financial security?Nowadays women dont need men to be financially secure they can make money and in some cases make even more cash then men.When you are single you have more money to use as you see fit, contrary to popular belief marriage doesnt equal more money just more bills.Children?They are no longer the status symbols they used to be, besides these are not the days of the past where people needed children to help on their farm, also have you noticed how in this day and age children are more of a liability then a source of joy.But if you must you can adopt or get a surrogate mother or visit a sperm bank.Divorce, nowadays people are in such a rush to run to their lawyer whenever any problem shows up in their marriage, dont let me get started on the emotional heartache and financial rape.
It is with this in mind that I think that marriage should be turned into an annual renewable contract with financial prenups included.If you are sick of the one you are with you can walk away.A doctor once said that married men live longer, may be true but they are also more willing to die.
ps: I owed my rommie $10 for the cable bill.Cable which I hardly watch and I dont have all the channels since I do not have a box on my telly.So I was not looking forward to having to go to the ATM to get the K, so I step out of my aparment and I look on the ground to my left and yes you guessed right!$10 dollar bill.Now time to start wishing for money to buy an I-pod nano!

Work continues

In one of my classes we were given half the exam as a take home and the other half we would do in class.So the prof asked how we wanted the two to be graded, I campaigned that each should count for 50% ie the take home 50% and the in class exam 50%.Did the rest of the class vote with me?Oh no they didn't most of them decided to go for 60% take home and 40% in class exam.Guess what!The take home portion is just one question that is as hard as hell!Dumbasess.Anyway as I struggle with that and my other take home exam here are some interesting facts:
10 Reasons Why You Shouldn't Kiss Anyone
Except Your Dog

1.More than 100,000,000 microscopic critters live in a human mouth.
2.Bacteria hang out there.
3.Fungus grows in the oral cavity.
4.Mouths have viruses that may cause disease.
5.The white blood cells from another person's spit will attack in your mouth.
6.Little leftover bits of food will go into your mouth.
7.Everyone's spit contains a little bit of urine from their glands.
8.Yellow teeth tartar is sickening.
9.Because the nose drips into the back of the mouth, you may get nose muscus mixed with a kiss.
10.Dog mouths contain many enzymes for fighting infections.
Stick to kissing your dog.

Did you know..............
That the smell of onion and garlic breath does not come from the mouth, but from the lungs. The smelly part of onions and garlic gets into your blood, and when the smelly blood reaches your lungs, you breathe out flavoured gas.

Owls have no teeth, so they swallow their meals (mice for instance) whole, fur, bones and all. Several hours later, they spew up a bundle of fur,feathers, teeth, claws, and bones, called an owl pellet.

During the Middle Ages, bathing was not in style. Not having to bathe was a sign of wealth. Many rich people bragged about avoiding the bath waters. One Englishman did not take the plunge for 13 years. This didn't mean that people didn't sweat or stink. People covered up their stench with perfumes, oils, and spices. A stinky time was had by all.

Back to the grindstone then.....

World AIDS day

Today is World AIDS day.Given the fact that I am in a small town in the south here AIDS isnt taken as seriously as it is in the bigger cities.Here in uni it is the ANGELS volunteer assoc that deals with AIDS awareness that are making an effort.There is a table on front campus where people can get pamphlets,info and badges.I got badges and gave them out during the intl students meeting yesterday.
Here in the states AIDS is still a disease for minorites and gay men.The rate of infections among minorites is 8 times that of white people.I am not going to point fingers but here unless something affects white people in large numbers the powers that be dont do too much about it.What they dont seem to know is that AIDS knows no color,nationality or boundary.
As for back in Kenya I dont know about the lates figures on the battle lines but I have always held the church in great contempt.The Catholics have been vehement in their stance against the use of condoms and birth control.Yes they say that people shouldnt be fornicating.But what should happen and what happens are two different things.They say that giving condoms would encourage people esp the youth to be promiscous, well the lack of condoms has never prevented many people from having a roll in the hay.I would rather my fall to the lust in the flesh happen when I have a condom and be a mere stumble then it to happen without a condom and result in my death.Church folk have also been known to ostracise many among their number for having the virus even though in some cases they didnt get infected due to immorality but by blood transfusions, use of unsterilised equipments or rape.It is known that there are an increasing number of men of the cloth who have the virus.Message to the churches who are doing nothing, You are so heavenly minded that you are becoming useless to the people on earth.
Another thing is that change begins with me and you.Infections are only going to go down when people change the way they behave.I am a firm believer in the ABC program Abstain, Be faithful and use condoms.But with the high rates of infection and the wanton way people act I am a firm believer in just C. Too many people think that it cant happen to me, well guess what?That is what most of the other people were thinking.It shocks me to think that there are still people who think that AIDS is not real even when they see people around them dying from it.
I used to work for an ngo that dealt with PLWAs and let me tell you that I used to hear so many different hear breaking stories that I became a stone.I had to turn to humour to deal with it most of the time.This isnt meant to be funny but I am going to say it anyway.I dont know if any of you used to play those story book games where you had to choose the route for the main character and it would shape up into a different story eg You are a young woman living in the country life is hard and you dont have much do you A) go to the city?Turn to page 4 B) stay in the country and work in your farm turn to page 8 C) stay in the country and try to find a husband?Turn to page 11.
Well if you chose to go to the city you would find that making it in the city was not as easy as you thought it was.You have the choice of going to work in a factory for minimal wage go to page 21. Or you can become a prostitute at a city bar go to page 24.If you chose to work in the factory after a few months you find that the other girls in the factory are being promoted to higher positions despite the fact that you are a harder worker.You talk to one of your colleagues and you find out it is because they are having sex with the foreman.If you choose to do so go to page 25 if you say no go to page 27.If you said yes, you go ahead do so get your promotion only to find yourself falling to mysterious maladies day affter day.You go to the clinic and find out that you have HIV.If you had chosen to be a prostitute one day a client offers you several thousand shillings for unprotected sex.You go ahead and have sex with him as you know you will not see that much money in a long time.You start getting sick some months later, go to the clinic and you know the rest.These and many other scenarios involving men and women I know are the basis for that.I met a young guy who used to take part in HIV awareness, do the test to show people how harmless it is, do peer counselling that sorta thing.This guy got a girlfriend and got infected the first time he had sex!Yes it is a sad state of affairs.These people are more then numbers at the end of the day.
I think I have derailed myself.What am I trying to say?Well when it comes to AIDS ignorance cant hurt you, it will kill you!
Well I have said enough about individuals now comes the government.I think the government is far from showing sufficient conncern in this area.Yes they have set up testing centres and doctors in public hospitals are being trained on how to treat HIV.But the health facilities in Kenya still cant meet the demand of people suffering from every day illnesses and accidents.Good healthcare is the preserve of the rich and well connected.In Kenya if you either have to die or auction off your belongings to pay your bills.It doesnt help that a large number of unregulated HMOs crashed with Kenyans money and that most of them and insurance companies are still at a loss when it comes to dealing with HIV.I think there has to be a total overhaul when it comes to dealing with HIV at higher levels.Some private sector companies ie HACO have made efforts to treat their employees which I applaud.I think the government should know that a sick company is not a productive nation and if people are not productive that means a whole lot less taxes for them to use to buy new mercedes benzes and build houses in Muthaiga for their families.As for NGOs!There are several hundred of them in Nai alone dealing with this issue yet we don't seem to be moving?You know why?Coz many of them are cash cows for some greedy individuals.There was an audit of NACC and it was found that some seats that were bought for a project were furnishing a bar owned by a committee member.I mean it is one thing to steal from healthy people but if you can steal from the sick and dying that's down right despicable!
Anyway I think I am on the verge of rambling.On a lighter note during Christmas it is good to sacrifice so that others can have, with Christmas round the corner I have decided to sacrifice strokes.Seeing as my one source of strokes has decided to go to Kenya on vacation I cant predict when the next strokes will come my way; so that is my heartfelt sacrifice for the under priviledged out there.........