Give me an ear won't ya part II

Before I get to the story at hand let me give some positive qualities about my big sis lest you think that this is character assasination.My big sis is very intelligent (straight A student all through and came here on scholarship) and very resourceful too (she can think on her feet).
Anyway so we made it to the studio,all 3 generations of us to take the pics.So we did like 2 family pics,then one of the gents,one of the ladies,then my aunt's kid took a couple of custom pics and then my big sis had her kid be done a whole lot of custom pics.
Anyway my small sis and I couldnt pick what photos to develop as we had to take my uncle to the airport to catch his flight.So my small sis had the sales lady swipe her credit card and she told my sis who was with my mum, "Do not go buckwild when choosing the photos, they are expensive."Then we left.
So one week down the line my sis opens her credit card bill and she has been billed $300!This was like a hard punch to a soft gut like Nick's because my small sis is barely making ends meet and she needed that cash with school coming up soon and my big sis knew that very well!And do you know what bulked up the bill?All the custom pics she had printed out of her kid,my aunt had left with us so she hadnt ordered anything yet.Anyway my small sis gave her a piece of her mind and my big wasn't pleased about it.
In the house when it comes to cooking everyone has their own day.So now due to the issues between them my big sis will not eat food my small sis has cooked and will instead cook separate food for her and her kid and isn't talking to her.My big sis is the kind of person with whom if you disagree she wouldn't talk to you for weeks on end and when she does it's on her terms when she feels you have paid penance.
Then my mum has just been watching this and she has vowed that she will never come back to the states.She would rather stay at home in nai and do her thing.The ironic thing is that is was my big sis who was really campaigning for my mum to come yet when she is here she is the person who talks to her least and doesnt open up to her at all!There was this time when my mum's sore throat was irritating her and you know how mathees are, they won't tell you out and out; they will grouch about it.So my big sis is sitting at the comp looking for stuff on e-bay and for a good almost four hours not talking to my mum and when she starts grouching about it (her way of calling for help) my sis is barely looking at her and just going "hmmmmm" and "mhmmmm."It took my small bro coming in from work not putting anything down and going with her direct to CVS to get her something.
Then let's talk about her kid.She's a nice gal,sweet and the prettiest thing that you ever did see.I don't know if any of you read some comment I made on Mutumia's blog about why men avoid single mothers, well my big sis is a case study for some of them and this was a comment made before I saw the full extent of the situation here.My big sis' life revolves around her kid in an unhealthy way.First of all much unlike us this kid is not disciplined in any way whatsoever, I mean I am not advocating for a full on ass whupping; but not even a pinch.We were all whupped as kids and we came out fine.Then there is nothing like moderation when it comes to this kid,this house looks like a friggin' toy store.There are toys all over the sitting room and cars cant be parked in the garage coz there are toys strewn all over.I mean for f*ck's sake I may sound harsh but there is moderation in all things.It is made worse by the fact that when we go into a store and the kid picks up a toy 80% of the time she won't be told to put it back.I mean all that cash on toys yet in this house they have been using the same cups that my mother bought when she was here in 2001.I know I sound harsh but I think that living alone with my mum as long as I did instilled alot of discipline and order in me.I actually feel guilty when I leave dishes sleeping overnight in the sink,but dont get me wrong the sufurias that have turned black always sleep so I am in no ways an extremist!Basically there is so much potential that my sis has but she is sitting on as she is overly focussed on her kid, she could get a better job with the experience she has but doesn't want to look for one until her kid goes to school.Then she makes no attempt at making friends, she only has 1 friend; I know some people aren't social but she has been here for a long time and I think especially if you have a kid you should be friends with other parents.But anyway as I always say,"to each his own."
Anyway I guess after not seeing my big sis for around 10 years people do change.I mean it is actually my aunt who plays big sis to my small sis (who has her own issues for another post) while my small bro watches the shells fly by; the poor boy hates this house so much that he leaves in the morning goes to uni and works long hours so that he can come home only to sleep.At least now he has me to confide in and bond with.I have vowed to come to this house as little as possible preferring my simple orderly life in my rustic college town but I will chip in when I can.
I know some of you are asking why haven't I said anything?First of all my big sis when she can't take it she walks away from you and won't talk to you until she sees fit to.Also this may sound selfish but I do need a place to stay before I get established when I move back down here after I am done with school.But if there is one thing that is true about me is that I love to instigate,I can never keep my mouth shut for too long.I will take it in but a time comes when I have to say my piece and trust me I have done so before irregardless of the consequences ; at times you must burn bridges and bear the consequences(easier when I have my own apt around here).Would any KBW lady or physchologist tell me why mothers and daughters have such complex relationships?Anyway I guess all this time spent in America has turned my family truly dysfunctional!