Wednesday, March 07, 2007

Do You Know Who Your Friends Are?

Most of you would answer a resounding yes to this question on most sunny days but when things go wrong I am sure the answer would change. Their is this dude who I met via a mutual friend who is learning that the hard way. He graduated from my Uni like a year ago, has just bought a house of his own and is slowly getting established at work. When he was in Uni he was a member of a fraternity and I got the impression that he was a bit of a man about town. Anyway his small brothers were in town visiting him and he was playing a game of basketball with them when he tore his tendon (I think I may have mentioned this is another post) anyway so now he ended up being immobile.
So of course what he needs at this time are his good pals to check in and pick up the slack before the fam checks in. He was stabilised in the local hospital and had to be taken to the next town 40 mins away the next day for his operation. His frat brothers and my pal were told that by the Doc and the reaction was interesting, one dude who had just popped in to see him when he heard that and people looked at him was like, "Whoa wait a minute......" and gave a lame excuse (the reality was he had left some chics in his house and had business to conclude), the other frat brother said he had to leave town the next day early in the morning and the other dude was inaccesible. Luckily the dude's mum popped in the next day and took him there.
After the operation things really didnt change, it was my pal who was doing most of the stuff; from picking up his meds, giving his small bros a ride to the bus station, making sure his house was comfortable/accesible for someone in his condition (while his big brother watched TV) and calling the dude's workplace about applying for short term disability. My pal has an open heart but I told her that enough is enough and this time she listened, the dude's pals were doing nothing and for the longest time his family looked at her to do things that they should be doing, acknowledging it but not picking up the slack at all. But the bright side of this is that the injured dude started thinking long and hard about who his real friends are because when he was injured the people who stepped up were few and far between. Anyway it just went on to reflect my thought about people, not everyone who laughs with you is your friend. That is why I keep my circle very small, to people who I can trust and rely on; I have no time for fairweather friends at all!

Moving on! I was on the BBC website when I came across this disturbing piece. I know it is a dog eat dog world in Nigeria but now it is a man eat dog world there too. Yes I know that people in Asia (Korea) eat dogs too but it is still gross and very unhealthy (there is a reason people don't eat the meat from predators regularly). Plus you all know I am a dog lover so this story just rubs me the wrong way!

Now I know why Jerry Falwell was going apoplectic over the Teletubbies!



Well done lads! Barcelona's down, who's next?

23 comments:

Rista said...

(wow!) Yep, that's life for you... just when you think you know good people, they correct your impression. Anyway, better he knows now than later. Lakini that fam of his! Ebu return to Africa where we might not like to do it, but our "ubuntu" forces us to "be nice".

Archer said...

Seco! Kwanza that video is very disturbing considering 5 year olds are watching this.

Congrats to Liverpool, just pray you don't meet Chelsea in the next round coz we got a grudge to settle, and we intend to pay it back in full!!

aizoh said...

One of my new year resolutions was that I do not want any baggage in my life. Some guys will hang on to you like a leaches when things are, like you normally say, fine and dandy but when the shit hits the fan there's no one around you. Shindwe!

Archer said...

Dog meat terminology:

404: A dog is also called 404 after the French-built Peugeot pick-up van, a tribute to a dog's ability to run fast

Headlights: A dish with the eyes of a dog as the most prominent component

Gear Box: Dog's liver, heart and kidneys (usually more expensive than ordinary meat)

Tyre: A dog's legs. Mr Umoh claims that eating a 'tyre' makes you a fast runner

Sentencing: The act of clubbing a dog to death rather than slaughtering it!

ROTFLMBAO!!

acolyte said...

@ rista
I guess as the title goes, he should by now know who his friends are. Well the sad thing is that he is African but born here and so are the bros.
@ archer
What are our kids learning?! Lol!
It would be a rematch of epic porpotions.
@ aizoh
I do hope that the resolution is panning out well and you now have your back covered!

acolyte said...

@ archer
I would give some sentencing to those kubaffs myself!

modoathii said...

very important post on friends. sad.

i'm a liverpool fan lakini those guys tisha me at times. if strikes to the post won matches tungekuwa champions msee.

gwok burger? LOL. then ati it improves sex life. tutaanza kumangana kama mbwa nini? there'd be no more quickies. hehe.

rista, don't be surprised but it also happens here. i've seen fams that chill for the buddies to do stuff.

archer, kujeni tuwachape tu kama kawaida.

modoathii said...

telly tubbies is scaringly disturbing. and how tois love that show...

Agiasi said...

I know who they are thankfully. That pal went through such a hards time!

That teletubby video wacha tu! I think that Tinky winky was always a little queer...heheheheh...red man purse and all...purple coloured has always been considered a gay icon...now they go and prove it?! Tsk! Tsk!

R said...

That's the blessing in disguise of these kind of situs, right? They help us sieve out who our real friends are so that we know how to distribute our friendship energy, no?

Still, it's sad.

3N said...

Ciiku just had a similar post. True to both of your observations you have to differentiate between social acquaintances and true friends.
On the Nigeria dog eating festival I am just disgusted by the thought…chinjaing a simba and roasting it for dinner is just not my idea of nyama.
Chelsea will take out Liverpool in champions league. Since Man-Useless seems to have summarized Premier league, we will obviously take champions.

mwangi said...

I hope Man-U meets Liverpool in the semis so we can destroy your only hopes for cutlery this season ...

mwangi said...

When I was a 3rd year in Colle, I broke my ankle playing soccer. I tell you those months I couldn't move tested me TO THE LIMIT. There are friends (midomo tu) and then friends for real like you described. Situations like this always enable you to sieve them out. But it's life I guess ...

egm said...

It's sad that it takes difficult times to find out who your true friends are. At least once that's been established, you know who's got your back and who doesn't.

The future diplomat said...

yeah that Telle tubby thing was funny, no wonder the righty is going crazy over telly gubby

Couch 'tato said...

talk about kinky winky!
no wonder guys were sayin subliminal messages are being passed on

kenyaonly said...

true to that, these days its realy hard to tell who is your real friend and who is not

TOTOBAYA said...

RE: one dude who had just popped in to see him when he heard that and people looked at him was like, "Whoa wait a minute......" and gave a lame excuse (the reality was he had left some chics in his house and had business to conclude), ...males are generally the worst friends when in need, A MALE WITH FEMALE BUSINESS TO CONCLUDE? DONT BOTHER.ITS LIKE SADDAM RELYING ON GEORGE BUSH FOR A 10KG URANIUM LOAN.

jessica said...

Your post is real nice...it is true that we realise that we know so lil just when we are confident its enough we know about someone. Anyways Congrats to Liverpool....!!! Do drop by my blog to share your ideas on friends and friendship.

dangerously_shy said...
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dangerously_shy said...

Acolyte,

Knowing who your friends are, IMHO would depend on your personal definition of what a friend is. I think most people have friends for the sake of having friends but dont not know or dont really understand what friendship entails and thus are disappointed when their expectations are not met. Aristotle must have been talking about this when he said that the desire for friendship comes quickly, friendship does not.

Indeed.

Living abroad, I keep friends who are as useful to me as I am to them. It sounds perfunctory but I am a realist.



Magna civitas magna solitudo.

A large city is a great place to be alone.

Francis Bacon.

beautyinbaltimore said...

I'm half Nigerian and I've never eaten a dog but I have had a slice of cat(just joking).
I've always said that when you are sick/broke, that is when you will find out who your true friends are.

Majonzi said...

wow!! amazing the tele-tubbies thingy. Highest order of irresponsibility!! I just blogged about 13yr olds having sex in the classroom with the teacher sitting right there!! ala!!!

on friends-- you are right, keep your circle tight and close. Generally, I dont expect too much from people since I know I am just setting myself up for disappointment!