I know there was a short term cease fire going on but I couldn't resist!
There is this tv show called Next.what happens is that there is this chic or jamaa then a group of jamaas and chic get to hang out with her/him one at a time.For every minute the chic/guy hangs out with them they get a dollar and if the chic/guy really likes them he/she asks them if they want to keep the money they have earned so far or to forfeit it and go for a second date and for the ones that he/she cant stand they are dismissed with a cry of NEXT!Some are next-ed even before they have opened their mouths due to dress,looks or appearance.
Anyway what am I getting to?In the world nowadays good men are hard to come by,so this is a short guide to the ladies on avoiding being NEXT-ed by your man!-Acolyte tosses grenade and dives for cover!-
First, trying to change your guy is like teaching a pig to sing; it wastes your time, and it annoys the pig! Guys typically don't change all that much, and are not all that keen on being ordered around, especially since they get enough of that at work. Coming home to more of the same is not likely to endear you to your guy. Home is supposed to be a haven after a hard day.
Second, nagging and passive-aggressiveness not only won't get you what you want, they annoy and downright infuriate your guy. Just ask for what you want. The worst we can say is "no" or "not right now."
And if we say no, we may have a very good reason for it.
Third, guys don't typically sweat the small stuff. They DO sweat the big stuff. Guys may not care that you don't look exactly like a Playmate of the Month, but they do care if you spend money like a drunken sailor, have a $2000-a-day drug habit, or are always negative and angry at the world. If you don't bring any big problems to the relationship, we won't care if the house isn't always operating room clean or the laundry isn't always spring fresh.And yes kids from another relationship can and are many times a big thing.Sorry but that's how it is!
Fourth, speaking of big stuff, a satisfying sex life is big stuff. Think of sex in the same way you think of comforting a small child who fell down or a sick pet. You'd never blow off your kids or your pets if you had a headache, so why would you do it to your guy, who wants nothing more than to cherish and protect you?Or if you must cut us off you might as well tell us what the reason is before we NEXT you
Fith.Avoid being an economic sinkhole. When we pay for all household expenses, all vacations, insurance, tuition, etc., give you a monthly stipend to spend on anything you want, and never ask you to contribute a nickel of your earnings from your job, we absolutely DESPISE finding out that you have no savings, you've run up $20,000 worth of credit card debt in the last three months buying clothes, and we need to bail you out again. A wise man once said, "Being married to a woman who cannot control her spending is like being married to an arsonist. You never know when you're going to come home and find out she's burnt another place down that you now have to pay for." I know some chic out there is harping "But we plan on giving equally to keeping the house going!"Yes some women do but i have met many many women who operate with the mantra, "my money is my money and his money is our money"
Sixth, weight matters!Maybe it shouldn't, maybe we shouldn't be so shallow, but weight matters. Make-up matters. Grooming matters. We hate to make it tough for you, but if you're in a long-term relationship with a guy and you expect to keep his attention you have to look as good as you did when you began dating or at least make an effort to.If you relax after gettting the wedding or engagement ring, sit in front of the TV all day and inhale ice cream and pizza like they were oxygen and allow that sexy nighty to moulder at the bottom of your underwear drawer, we'll probably stop asking about it. Soon thereafter we'll either start an affair behind your back or "next" you.
And if you give me that story of "You should love your woman no matter how she looks," I say this "If you dont love yourself enough to take care of how you look then why should someone else?"Don't agree? Come closer my open palm has something to tell you.....SLAP!!!!
ps:I was looking at the results of the poll and there is no shame in you people's game!Would you still vote yes if you knew your blog is one of those on the chopping block.Vote carefully people!
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