Monday, February 20, 2006

Changing faces...

I don't know if it's just me or maybe this happens to you people.Do you have people in your life who only ever or most of the time experience just one side of you and that's all that they know you by?
For example, there is this gal whom we share a mutual e-pal with so we do e-mail once in a while.So what happens is that this gal sometimes says things which in my point of view are very short sighted,naive and simply slow.Yes the statements she makes at times can be that way, I am not speaking out of sheer cynicism.Anyhow what happens as a result is that half the time I do end up setting her straight or being sarcastic.Like there is this time when she told me that she was planning on leaving her current job but she was scared of the many spies in their office.I must add at this point in time all I knew was that she worked on Mombasa Rd, no idea of company name or her rank there.So as a good friend I gave her the usual b.s ie just lay low, don't cause uneccesary drama etc.A few days pass and then she mails me asking me to call her on her cell phone or send her a post card so that she can know who I am and not a spy.In typical Aco fashion I stripped the situation to its' bones, highlighting the fact that I knew nothing about the finer details of her life.Oh I had also sent her photos of my uni and town.I also didn't have the money to make international calls or the time to send postcards.She persisted so I gave her a link to pointofmail.This is a service that allows you to know exactly where an email was sent from, bar anonymus IP and rebounding services of course.So she got the point.This is just a more sane example, but she tells me that I tend to be impatient and snappy.Anyone who knows me personally knows that that is not the case at all!
Then there is this other gal whom I chat with once in a while.She's a nice person but she thinks that I am off my rocker due to the things I say to her on-line.I am not going to quote myself but she once asked me if I ever think before I type.But she too thinks that I am harsh and strict.But I think it is because she asks some questions that just rub me the wrong way or are about things that feel strongly about.I mean this is a gal who asks me whether she should take a communications course so I ask her whether she has looked at the course outline and you know what she tells me?"I would rather know from someone who has done the course before like you," did I mention that we are 3 states away from each other and in different universities, so I am not the best person to ask that question.Also at times she has the memory of a goldfish so I end up having to repeat whole conversations when I refer to a snippet of what we had talked about once due to the fact that she has forgotten almost all of what he had talked about 2 days earlier.Yes she drives me up the wall but I feel it is my responsibility to shepherd the lost youth of today.
Then the Prof whom I want to bitchslap thinks I am kinda smug.But we are pals, in fact we went to lunch last week.But she's still on the hit list.....
Come to think of it I doubt we have many people in our lives who have seen us in all our true colors.At least that's what I can say I don't know about you.....

14 comments:

s! said...

i hear you! i tend to be very frank and practical in my outlook too.. unfortunately that rubs a lot of people the wrong way!

thanks for dropping by!

acolyte said...

@ S!
Gotta visit the furthest reaches of kbw whenever possible!

Movie Buff said...

Oh! I know for sure that there is no one who has seen me in my true colors.....

There are people out there who think I am bitchy.... but surely it has to be because they ask asinine questions.....

Acolyte said...

@ movie buff
Seems I'm not the only one put off by asinine comments!

Guessaurus said...

Aco is e-communicating with Wacko's (did I just rhyme?)

Needless to say people have got their opinions and most are based on what you say, what they see, or what they think they see, not the whole person.

Like marriage, it takes a very long time to get to know the real person, so just brush this aside and base it on the conversations you have with these people and that that is what they just have to go on.

Although like you I sometimes get branded a snob coz I aint interested in gossiping about stuff, and two, because I have no patience with stupidity and also find repeating myself quite annoying.

acolyte said...

@ guess
I feel you 200%!Seems we cant please everyone and some people just bring the worst out of us!

Keguro said...

I am kind and gentle and understanding and patient and patient and patient

Teaching demands these qualities

witness students who don't read course outlines, don't read syllabi, don't read assignment sheets, don't read essay assignments, don't read exam questions, don't complete assignments on time, don't come to class

and wonder why they fail

acolyte said...

@ Keguro
I too want to teach someday but the thought of meeting students like that puts me off.I have met all those kind of students ie my room-mate whom I share a class with, the material challenges even me and he doesnt come to class!Cant wait for the mid-term to see what goes down!

Kenyangal said...

If i said exactly what I thought all the time.....wow i shudder to think of the consequences. I think if people really knew the real me they'd send me to a madhouse

Milonare said...

Hmmmm

Ati wha... Prof on hitlist?

LOLOLOL

As for speaking one's mind... With caution as some people don't understand the truth...

If she forgets snippets, cut and paste... Save, cut and paste LOLOLOL

acolyte said...

@ Kenyangal
Once in a while you should let it out, it's good for the soul!
@ Milo
I'll deal with that prof soon!Yeah the truth does hurt!As for the forgetful chic she tasted the sharp end of my tongue jana, poor gal.I'm planning on posting that convo....

Machozi said...

Ha ha!These chicks u know seem one sandwich short of a picnic! too funny!

Prousette said...

You must be hanging around weird chics coz the ones I know have a thing for detail. I do too, my brain cells seem to have nothing else to do than store snippets of events especially what the males say.... and quote them verbatim six months later mpaka when I go "you said blah" I am told to shut up coz I will spoil things.

acolyte said...

@ machozi
you meet all sorts of interesting ppl!
@ prou
unfortunately not all gals have your super memory!