I am sure we all know such dudes. A dude who is in his mid 20's and over, has a temp or no job, has little motivation to do anything, more often than not he dropped out of college / university, some have drink or drug problems and in more extreme cases a kid.These are not the mama's boy's who have something going for them but choose to stay at home, these are the bottom of the barrel peeps; the never have beens! Heck you could be one of those dudes!
One thing that I have mentioned is that more often than not these men have close relationships with their mothers. Interestingly enough is the fact that quite often when they have sisters, these girls very often have a straight head on their shoulders and are not as messed up as their brothers if at all. And yes I do know some chics who are just as messed up but this one is about the guys because I have been accused of being a woman-basher by certain people, so this one is for you!
It has been said in the case of single mothers, they lavish their sons with the love that is meant to be targetted at a partner but do not excercise the same when it comes to discipline. There is also the lack of male role models, father figures or just a father! This not to say that all sons raised by single mothers turn to be a mess though. There are other factors but I dont want to get into them right now as that is a post in its own.
I have known quite a few of these dudes and I used to think what a waste! I used to have this neighbour who never used to kosa at jobless corner. The dude was in his early or mid thirties but all the bumming he did seems to have kept him young. He always used to have a tall story, if you listened to him you would think that this dude was on the up and up. He could name drop like there was no tommorrow but at the end of the day; zip zero! When I moved into the hood I was a first year in uni and he was bumming, when I left uni, he was still bumming by the time I was leaving the country he was still bumming!
There are also these 2 brothers I know who are the sons of an ex MP who passed away a few years ago. These two went to India a long time back when it was all the rage and came back with nothing (by the way what is it about India that messes people up? Someone please share).
They also have another brother who is just as messed up, the dude used to drink so much that he was almost losing his eyesight. But they do have one brother who turned out just fine and has a well paying job and two sisters who also seem just fine, so you wonder what went write or wrong in his case.
One of the brothers went drinking in one of the Estate bars and came home to find the gate locked and decided to climb over it. As he went over one side and jumped to the ground, one of the spikes on the top of the gate caught the hood of his sweatshirt. What this did was turn his sweatshirt into a noose, he was too drunk to try and wriggle his way out of the sweatshirt and the gate was pretty high so he couldn't put his feet on the ground. So the rest of the family woke up to find his corpse hanging on the gate.
A sad way to leave the world isn't it?
Most men I know aspire to make something of their lives, acquire prestige, achieve goals and the such. In fact when men cant do this they get depressed when they can't display their worth, hence cases of alcoholism or suicide when people are laid off. So, it is a sad thing when you come across those who have all the opportunities to make something of themselves but for some reason or other choose not to which to me is different from those who have tried but circumstances in life have prevented them from achieving their goals and full potential. I am sure some of you know some of these never have beens. What to say? What to say?
On the other hand, seems there is a new middleweight Champion in the UFC. The undefeated Rich Franklin was knocked off his perch! Lesson of the day from watching that fight? Don't follow someone else's game plan! Rich Franklin can punch but he is by no means on the same level as the dude he was fighting, Anderson Silva who has had years of Muay Thai training under his belt. Once he has you in the clinch you need to get out as fast as possible!Here's the fight, it was over in no time!
ps: You have to admire how fast Wiki members are! The fight was on Saturday and the entries have already been changed!
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