Friday, January 23, 2009

Getting None, A New Day and Other Things....

After the first few nights of cold sweats, the shakes, handcuffing my right hand to the bed post and deleting my ex's number I knew it would survive. What am I talking about? Not getting any, a dry stretch, lack of carnal pleasure or whatever you call abstinence. You see I have had a dry stretch that has gone back for a while but to make things more interesting I decided to be voluntarily chaste this year. No outlet of any shape, way or form.

One thing that I came to realize is that we live in a very sexualized society, half of the products you see advertised on tv use sex appeal as a hook. Don't let me get started on music videos and half of the sitcoms/dramas. Then you have to look at how people dress and what is taken to be the norm in male-female relationships, so of course living in such a society someone not trying to get any esp if they're not religious comes of as an anomaly.

I must admit that no longer being on horseback takes some getting used to but it's not a bad thing. No I do not have a larger porn collection (I do find porn hilarious though) nor do I have a stronger right arm but I have been spending more time at the gym. So I do think people who equate not getting laid with some sort of death have it twisted. Irony would be of course me getting involved in an orgy 24 hours after writing this post.

I'm sure most of you and the rest of the world were watching the Inauguration. I have work mates who even went to Washington to be part of the action. I have my opinion on the over hyping of Obama and how reality is going to be a harsh teacher in the months to come, but that's a post for another day. It's still a historical moment that we need to remember whichever way we can for now.

Anyway Friday is here so it's time for my mini celebration dance and then get my ass back to the grind. Nice Weekend people!

15 comments:

Kafai. said...

I have discovered quiting alcohol is easier than quiting sex. Off to find me a gym!

venus said...

I have come to the conclusion that what I yearn for more than sex, is someone to be 'in love' with, hence the reason CFAs won't work.

All the best with the dry spell. About BO, you're right, I just hope the world is prepared to be real, because the man is great, but he's no God.

bomseh said...

I'll start by disagreeing vehemently with Kafai. Don't even let me go to the advantages of beer vs sex. I am still battling to quit alcohol.

As for Venus, I agree with you, CFA arrangements are very tricky. Random one night stands are better.

Hey Aco, let's continue with the ride.

New outlook eeh?

Acolyte said...

@ Kafai
Its hard for me to say since Im getting little of both and none of the other.
@ venus
Yes we all yearn for someone to be with, some peeps just sub sex for serious relationships sadly. BO has a whole lot of work ahead of him to say the least.
@ bomseh
Good luck with quiting pints ebu tell us how your one night stands work!
Yup new outlook, new year and new template!

31337 said...

Loooove the new template. That is all. For now.

Acolyte said...

@ 31337
Thanks for the kudos!

gishungwa said...

Loving the new look. Now about BT, the longer you stay onthe train the easier it is until you "backslide" . Still for me sex has to mean more now scooot!

Acolyte said...

@ Gish
The longer you are on the BT the easier it is to resist temptation but yes when you fall off, it's game over! GEtting back on is hard.
I wish you all the best in getting a balanced rship!

Digzer said...

Love the knew look.

It's nice to hear a man say that for a change. Keep saying there's more to life. Oh please let me know when you write the post about falling off tha bandwagon ...

Supaflyshi said...

I like the new set-up. I have been on the BT train for over a year now, and I must say that it's not too bad. I think your mind and body stop craving what they don't get anymore. The first couple of months are hell...but after that, you get to your Zen period... it's pretty cool.

|d®| said...

Nice template.
Sex is like a favorite drug - the more you have the more you want.
Enjoy the BT tho. Or is it more therapeutic, a sabbatical of sorts?

Acolyte said...

@ digzer
I see my downfall has been predicted, sadly everyone has to go down sooner or later. Thanks for the compliment, I like the new template too!
@ supa
You are one strong lady, it's hard at the beginning I must admit but gets easier as time goes by esp if you make the effort to stay away from temptation.
@ |d®|
Thanks for the compliment. I agree that once you have been getting it for the regular, making do without is one major major headache.
For me its more of a sabbatical, lust free days are a good thing.

Kabinti said...

maybe the left arm is stronger....:) you didn't clarify

Nubian Queen said...

Its all in the mind..trust yes u can!! I bought a big Geisha soap from home u can always borrow!


@ Kafai loving urself with ur left hand is quite impossible for guyz as to what ive heard. Something to do with the way the signal is sent to the brain...its apparently a no go zone!! so what about left handed peeps??

don said...

Great Blog and great comments. Nice to see someone talking about life's difficulties without preaching or judging. I am currently trying very hard to kick a lousy habit. I have good days and I also have really low days when I want to take all the sleeping pills and wash them down with a small chupa of Vodoski.

Good luck to all who have the guts to face their demons.