Monday, December 12, 2005

Chasing A Dream

For some reason when I was bored I signed up for Yahoo! personals for fun.At the moment dating via the net is not a priority for me but I do love to read the personals that I am sent once in a while.One thing I have noticed is that so many people are looking for someone who will light some sort of fire in their heart or have some catacylismic meeting of souls you know like the stuff that you see in the movies or are the hallmark of romance novels.
I mean when did people start dreaming of a white night on a statuesque steed who'll come rushing in,slay their dragons and then take the damsel on his horse off to his castle where they have a beautiful wedding.What happened to letting love happen?Letting things take their course?What happens when you don't feel the butterflies that you felt when you first saw the person,do you walk away?It is about time people began realising that love is not a feeling but sustained committment because with the human condition when the desired sensation/condition is achieved it stops being the desired condition.That is why people can't stop taking drugs because they are always looking for the next high,a better feeling then what they have now.Feelings are merely electrical impulses on nerve endings, here one second and gone the next.
One thing that I admire with our parents generation, much as we feel that we are better off then them is the fact that many of them started off as friends before they became lovers and confidantes.Many of us both men and women sometimes miss out on love because we often overlook what is so near us as we wait for some flawless Mr/Mrs Perfect.I do agree that it is possible that the person you seek may not be in your immediate environs but when you here everyone asking where they can meet people you get the impression that we live in a sparsely populated world where member of the opposite gender don't get to see each other and interact at all.Why do we seek someone without spot or blemish yet we are unwilling to confront our own.You want a Prince Charming but are you willing ask yourself are you Cinderella or one of her sisters?
My dad and mum lived in a one room house when they first hooked up and my mum actually supported my dad for a year or so as he was in Law school.He later on graduated got employed and eventually started his own practice.How much of us can admit having that patience and heart to start from so far behind?From what I have heard not too many of us.We have become so unwilling to compromise on what we want, we expect that the person we are meant to love should look a certain way,come from a certain place,do certain things and have certain things.When that does not happen we say no and continue our search not knowing that there are others whom we desire who are doing the same to us.We have been raised in an instant generation where we everything comes ready done and is one phone call or e-mail away.So we expect to be able to get a better half at a moments notice and to fit in with our schedule,we expect that since we are now done with school, have gotten the good job,own house and car; that now a partner should magically appear to fall in with our schedule.The bible talks about their being a time for everything but unfortunately the universe does not always follow our time schedule, your time for love and the chosen one may have passed you by when you were busy chasing after other things.May the Gods be kind and spare most us the dispair that comes with mourning what may have been and what we could have had and leave us in blissful ignorance chasing the winds of passion,sentiment and fervour feeling their brush our souls......

Though my lover lives in the sun's caress,
I seek her here in this dreamless lake,
where I suffer it's cold embrace,
wondering why the darkness has nothing to give,
she lives above and I below,
where's water's call is to nights of solitude.
I wish for that she were here,
to breathe life into this languid sea.
And so i cringe and crawl under the waters heavy blankets,
into a sleep without dreams,
mercifully blinded to her image,
in the sorrow-filled arms of the ocean.


Nakeel said...

For true ACo there is alot to admire from our parents generation on their relationship and the way they ran it..
What a sweet finish u did there i like it... Hope one day u get that dream..

kipepeo said...

i totally feel you on how our parents generation have a special thing. At the end of the day, the passion dies, you have to be friends, and in love to have something left when that happens.

acolyte said...

@ Nakeel
Thanks for passing by.Yes much as we beat on the old days and old timers there is so much we can learn from them.
@ Kipepeo
Too bad this is a lesson that so few of us ever learn.We are too busy searching for searing passion.

Msanii_XL said...

Great post aco...especially about the human feeling being "ficklish" and lacking sustainment...

from personals to a serious post ..he he he busted chops just for glee of course

acolyte said...

@ Msanii
Wsup?I see you're laggin behind nowadays!Yea sorta had to put a twist in the tale for the people.

Tee J said...

I think my 'chosen one' came and went...when I was 'younger' I went thru the 'bad boy' phase while there were so many nice boys after me.

If only I'd listened to my friends. Boy, was I stupid! It's so hard to find 'him' that I've stopped looking. I think karma is doing a number on me.

acolyte said...

@ Tee J
Usijali we are together on that one.There is a gal who loved me kabisa and I treated her like crap.Now she's gone and I am yet to get a replacement.sniff sniff!

mutumia said...

so what's your profile ID- we go see what you're about eh??? LOL

acolyte said...

@ mutumia
SH*T!!!!!Ain't no way I am sharing that!Some things must remain hidden!:D

Prousette said...

the first one on KBW to admit having gone the personals way hey.... you'll let us know ow the search is going no?