Wandering mind

Today I was bored and my mind got to thinking about how men and women relate and how complicated it is.
Picture this scenario:
Boy meets girl.Boy is attracted to girl.Boy starts calling girl almost daily and spending lots of time with girl.
Boy and girl become an item.Girl loves boy and spends time with him daily and talks on phone to him every other day.Girl spends alot of time at boy's house and vice versa and they do alot of every day activities together.
After sometime Girl begins coming up with long term plans for both of them, Boy seems to be fine with those ideas.
After a while phone calls and activities initiated by Boy reduce to a trickle.Boy begins to spend more time with his "boys" then with Girl.Boy and Girl part ways with Girl left bitter.
I know I have glossed over the situation but why is it that when a Boy and Girl start dating; the Boy pursues and all is well.When they begin dating at first all is peachy.When girl starts getting closer and closer and more of Boy's life is when cracks begin to appear.The closer Girl gets the further Boy pulls back until he runs away.I have my own answer but what is it about female closeness that drives away many men?Even married men who end up spending more time at work, doing hobbies and with friends then with their wives?
I am no relationship expert but your views and experiences will be greatly appreciated!
Now a great article on some reasons why men will not commit....

No more freedom

We men are extremely independent by nature. We like to make our own decisions and run our lives by our own rules. We want to do what we want when we want. But when a woman enters the picture, all the choices a guy simply used to take for granted -- going out for a beer with his buddies, buying a big screen TV, playing golf on Saturday afternoon -- suddenly have to be cleared with her first. And her answer is almost always, "No -- we're a couple now" (translation: "We're going to do things my way"). Almost overnight, we find ourselves trapped, doing what she wants to do, regardless of his own wants or desires.Men were born free and should be allowed to roam free once in a while!

Loss of space

We like guy things -- we need "guy space" for stuff like cars, tools and watching kick-ass action flicks. But women want to take over, to "female up" what used to be exclusive male territory with frilly drapes and paintings of flowers. In fact, they're so committed to feminizing all the space around them that they quickly start forbidding us to have any guy stuff at all. So suddenly you find the bathroom buried in female products, your leather couch has been reupholstered in pastel paisley, and the spot where you kept your tools has blossomed into an indoor herb garden.I once went to a married pal's digs and I was almost buried in lace, fluff, kitsch and other "beautifying" material' aaaaaaaaaaargh!!!!!!!!!!!!!

One sex partner, forever

We naturally crave sexual variety. When we commit -- either in marriage or cohabitation -- we willingly volunteer to cut ourselves off from any other sexual pursuits. Sexual boredom can set in, followed by a total lack of desire. For a lot of us -- even guys who weren't getting a lot of action anyway -- this can be the scariest consequence of all. Men are hardwired to have sex with as many females as possible so as to perpetuate the survival of the species, in nature males have the shortest life spans from birth...but then that doesnt justify humping around!I am just saying why men get tempted to do it!

We've been burned before

When we've been divorced and run through the wringer of the female-biased court system, many of us are reluctant (read "terrified") to risk a second commitment. Nowadays, we aren't exactly chomping at the bit to sign a contract legally allowing a woman to clean us out financially. Successful achievers -- those of us who have built companies and high-powered careers from the ground up -- are especially afraid of being forced to hand over all the fruits of our hard labor to a greedy female and may make the decision never to get involved in a serious relationship again.I have heard some horror stories that would turn casanova gay.So I believe men should forget about lovey dovey and enter things with both eyes open!

The emotional baggage

Many women look at marriage through Cinderella eyes -- for them, putting a ring on their fingers means that we will magically solve all their problems, from childhood issues with their fathers to huge shopping debts incurred on credit cards. Women often submerge their true personalities and agendas until the knot is tied -- but when the truth comes out and the we find ourselves legally bound to a greedy, nagging bitch, it's too late.I always say that if she seems to be perfect then she is hiding some major major baggage and mileage to boot!

Lack of compromise

Commitment implies the ability to compromise -- ideally a marriage should be a 50/50 partnership in which each half contributes and shares equally. But to a woman, "compromise" often means "do it my way or you're cut off from sex." So we are forced into surrendering to this sexual blackmail if we want to get any sex at all, and the result is a terrible loss of male power.Good thing I have been getting chastity training coz a man must stand up for what he believes in, no matter what the cost!

Loss of free time

Serious relationships suck up an enormous amount of time and energy -- they can entirely take over our lives. The pressure is always on to do something, be it wine and dine her, interact with her family, remember her birthday, or pick her up from work. For some of us, all the bother just isn't worth the effort.Gotta go pick curtains with her, go see the inlaws, go to the mall, go here, go there!Its a hard life!

Not ready for it

These days, there are fewer societal pressures to marry and we can weigh our options instead of just jumping directly from school into marriage. We can afford to wait for that perfect woman while we concentrate on getting our careers off the ground, save to buy a house, or actively play the field.Yup!Men have a long sell by date, no biological clock to watch out for!

Can't trust a woman

We learn pretty fast that many women can't be trusted -- they're always looking to upgrade, to latch onto a man with more money, more status and more stuff to sex-ploit. Commitment to a relationship means putting your heart on the line, and none of us want a sharp stiletto heel spiking us in the back as our ex-girlfriend scrambles over us to get to the next guy.Women are the craftiest creatures to walk God's earth so a man must be wise and take his time or get screwed!

She applies pressure

For a lot of women, commitment is the finish line for their adult lives. They want to get married and they want to do so now . So they exert increasing pressure on us to settle down -- pressure that can cause us to pack up and leave.I think this ties in with what I was saying, at times patience works best as things do work out in their own time..