This post is for the guys out there.It's time for The Acolyte to share some advice with the brothers.So ladies thanks for coming by please detour through here.Thank you!
Anyway to the few KBW men out there.It has come to my notice that there is a small carnal drought going on.I on the other hand have set myself aside from the mating game for spiritual reasons but I know that is not the case for most of you except maybe Joe (I can mention your name here right?)
Anyway I have noticed that when many men want to get some, they go to clubs.I mean it sounds good in theory; many women, fewer men (not all the time though), gals in skimpy clothes, alcohol, enclosed spaces.Looks great doesn't it!All those gals to choose from so you have a chance of getting some right?Well I am going to tell you one thing, looking to get laid in clubs is a waste of your time and money.Go to clubs to hang with the boys, listen to music and drink; and leave it at that.The minute you go their with the sole aim of getting laid you are already 1,000 man points down and going to waste valuable man-hours and maney!Let me school you boys about why it's a losing proposition.
1.The Girl Game! - This is a game that girls love to play esp in the club.Once you agree to play, you have been owned!First things first most guys go to the club to get laid while girls go the club with their gals to dance,hang out and play the girl game.This starts by a girl going to a club (looking hot) with her girls.Women love clubs because they hold all the cards their, it's their turf and not yours.Anyway back to the game
-Gal sees a guy checking her out :1 point
-Gal sees a cute guy checking her out: 2 points
-Gal sees a guy she was checking out looking at her: 3 points
-The cute guy asks her to dance: 4 points
-Gal confirms that the guy wants her because he is touching her: 5 points
-Gal sees her gal's boyfriend checking her out: 5 points
-Gal is offered drinks by guys: 4 points
The more points a gal can get in one night the better she feels, she doesn't have to give anything up as there are many suckers in the club willing to stroke her ego for nothing!The problem is that the more points she scores, the harder it gets for you to hook up!So after you get into the game she has like 17 points over you and will pass you over for a harder challenge.So to stand any chance in the club you have to refuse to play the game.But this won't do you much good because of point number 2.
2.Competition! - Who likes compe?I don't!Do you?You can beat the competition if your game is good enough but who wants to have to do that if you don't have to.
By the time you get to the club, the gal has been approached by so many guys that her points are through the roof.So this makes things harder for you even if she likes you.
She has spent hours getting dressed and is feeling all that.So she thinks she is all that and this puts and extra burden on you to impress her.Who needs that extra work?
She is probably with her gals at the club playing the girl game.She may have gone home with you if she was alone but as long as she is with the gal that isn't happening as she doesn't want her gals to judge her.So if you are lucky for all your work you may get her number.
The Mother Hen.This is that irritating gal who will not leave you alone with the gal for 5 minutes.She will always be there pulling her away to dance,take her to the loos,make laps of honor and when you try to tell gal that you will take her home, you will here the dreaded line; "We came together so we are leaving together!".
The club is filled with other people who can kill your game.Many of them have game and some don't.But all of them are a distraction and some gals think they can have them all.
3. Perceptions - Girls have an instinctive distrust of guys they meet in the club.Their mothers and gal pals have warned them that men in the club are only after one thing.So now the burden on you is to prove that you are not one of those guys (even if you are!).Every girl has had that one night stand from the club that never called back.
4.Environment - Clubs are noisy,cramped and chaotic.It's hard to get a good flow going in one.It's hard for you to display your best qualities here, you're just like every other guy fishing in a pool of mud.
Fact is that girls are alot easier to get with when you meet them somewhere else other then clubs.Away from a club a gal's guard is down and even very "hot" girls will give you a whole lot more time then they would in a club.Girl's also tend to dress more casually when they aren't in clubs so the fact that you are talking to them makes them think that their looks are not the first thing on your mind.Open up your minds men!There are loads of women elsewhere and most of the fruitful pursuits I have had did not start in the club.So take this to heart and get busy!
Thanks to Kenyangal I too have began reading books which are "The Rules" version for men!Have a man-tastic weekend!
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